No one ever said life was going to be fair

I can't tell you how many times I've said that to my kids.  Usually after they would complain about something being, "Not fair!"  Of course, as a grown up, you know that life isn't fair.  You know that along with all the good things in life, there will be bad.  That life is, essentially, a series of ups and downs.  Good and bad.  Yin and yang.

As a parent, you expect that your kids will experience disappointments in life.  That they won't get picked for that sports team, that their friend won't invite them to their birthday party, that they won't get the exact Lego set they wanted for Christmas, or that they can't watch Agents of Shield because they didn't get their homework done.  You know that all of these things are lessons in disappointment that will toughen them up a little bit, prepare them for life and for bigger, harder disappointments down the road.  You know that these small lessons in disappointment will teach them that even though sometimes bad things happen, and they won't always get what they want, that they'll get through it.  You know that they'll be okay, and probably better off, because these lessons will teach them to be resilient.

As a parent, you also expect that your kids will get sick sometimes.  You expect the strep throat, flu, tummy aches, colds, and the occasional headache.  You know that with a little TLC, they'll get better in a few days.  You know that you can take them to the doctor, they'll get a prescription for whatever ails them, and then they'll get better.  You don't expect that one of them, who's always been the picture of health, will get an autoimmune disease that will turn your families' life upside down. It is something that there is no cure for but can only be managed through drastic lifestyle changes.  But, that is what happened to my son.

I'm sure you've heard the expression, "Life can change on a dime."  That is exactly what happened to us when my son came home from school on January 12th with a headache.  None of the doctors he saw could figure out what was wrong with him.  As a parent, there is no more desperate or hopeless feeling in the world than seeing your child sick, growing worse by the day, and not knowing what to do to help him.  I don't even know if I can put those feelings of hopelessness and desperation into words, but I'm going to try.

I know that up until this point, my blog has been primarily about my DIY projects around our house, but I'm also going to be writing about what has happened to Jacob.  I'll be letting you know his diagnosis and the major lifestyle changes that we've had to make because of it.  I will also be writing about how we are trying to manage his autoimmune disease.  Of course, I will still be blogging about my DIY, decorating and crafty projects too because those are things that I love to do.    These past months, while I've been focusing on my son's health, I have managed to get some projects done so, I'll be sharing those with you.  I also have a new blog look and some exciting news coming up!
I felt that this quote best summed up what we have been (and are still) going through.  While I won't pretend to be a religious person, I do consider myself spiritual, and I have been doing a lot of praying for acceptance and strength.  We have had to do so much letting go of what was, which is still very difficult at times.  Mostly, we are trying to "believe in what will be" because while we are still figuring this whole autoimmunity thing out and dealing with the lifestyle changes we've had to make, there have been blessings along the way, and we are optimistic about the future.  Thank you for reading!  I hope that you will continue to follow along.

1 comment

  1. Oh Sharon! I can only imagine how difficult of an adjustment this has been for you guys. I'm so glad you are planning to share more of what's going on with your family here. You know I'll always check in for great DIY but I think sharing your story will help a lot of people in a similar situation and let us get to know you better.


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